I have a few sites that I've been using to keep up to date on information, ill post them here and if anyone else has any to add please do so:

http://home.comcast.net/~nakomaru/ffmaps/ world map that has node locations, zone connections and general fate spawn locations

http://craftingasaservice.com/ equipment calculator for bis per level, useful for leveling crafting professions or gathering materials for those that don't want to do math

http://www.ariyala.com/ffxiv/gear.html comparable spreadsheet of end game gear based on job and race, useful if you want to maximize stats against caps